The book for today is Healing Your Family History: 5 Steps to Break Free of Destructive Patterns by Rebecca Linder Hintze
Here are some of the questions the book talks about and my answers to them:
- What do I want most in my life right now?
I want to love myself. I want to find peace. I want to be able to have friends and a relationship with the opposite sex.
- Do I feel my parents love themselves fully?
- Write one or more tradition I learned from my mother.
I must hold on to all my money or it will go away. I don’t deserve to have what I want. I must give everything I have to others and keep nothing for myself. Those that don’t go to church are bad. If I go to church I will be good enough. It is better to do everything myself, letting others do it is showing weakness. Women are less valuable than men and we should defer to them. Men can’t be trusted. I must keep my house clean or I’m not good enough. The needs of others are more important them my own. Love is hurtful.
- Write one or more tradition I learned from my father.
There is not enough in this universe. I must fight to get my portion. I must be attractive or I’m not good enough. I will always be taken advantage of in the world. Those that don’t go to church are bad. If I go to church I will be good enough. It is better to do everything myself, letting others do it is showing weakness.
Boy it is amazing what we get from our parents. I hope that with work I can get rid of some of these traditions/beliefs.